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How to Write a Meaningful Eulogy: A Step-by-Step Guide

  • Writer: david cortez
    david cortez
  • Jun 17
  • 3 min read

Writing a eulogy can feel like an overwhelming task, especially when your heart is still grieving. But it’s also one of the most powerful ways to honor a life, preserve memories, and share what made someone truly unforgettable.

Whether you’ve been asked to speak at a memorial service or simply want to express your love in words, this step-by-step guide will help you create a eulogy that’s personal, meaningful, and heartfelt.

A close-up of a handwritten letter with a fountain pen and soft purple flowers, symbolizing remembrance and the act of writing a heartfelt tribute or eulogy.

Step 1: When You Write a Eulogy, Reflect on the Person’s Life

Before you start writing, take some quiet time to think about the person you're honoring. What moments stand out? What were their passions, quirks, and values? What will everyone miss most about them?

If you’re using A Life Portrait, their Memorial page or tribute video can be a great place to revisit memories and find inspiration.

Tip: Think in stories, not just traits. Instead of saying “She was kind,” tell a story that shows that kindness in action.

Step 2: Collect Memories and Stories

Reach out to family and friends. Ask them to share their favorite moments or thoughts, even a sentence or two can spark something beautiful. Photos, old voicemails, and shared text messages might also help jog memories.

Prompt ideas: “What’s one moment that still makes you laugh?” “What do you think they would want to be remembered for?”

Step 3: Choose the Right Tone

Should it be serious and reverent? Light and humorous? A mix of both? There’s no right answer. It depends on the person and the setting. A eulogy can be touching and funny at the same time, as long as it comes from the heart.

Consider: What would they have wanted the tone to be?

Step 4: Create a Simple Structure

You don’t need to write a masterpiece. Just something honest and true. Use a simple structure like this:

  • Opening: Who you are and your connection to them

  • Body:

    • Key memories, stories, and personality traits

    • What they meant to you (and others)

  • Closing: A final goodbye, favorite quote, or message of love


Step 5: Write and Edit with Heart

Write as if you're talking to a friend. Keep sentences simple and natural. Once you’re done, read it out loud and revise for clarity. If it helps, imagine the person sitting in the room with you. What would you want them to hear?


Step 6: Practice Reading Aloud

Practice reading the eulogy several times before the service. This helps with pacing and gives you confidence if emotions rise.

Bonus tip: Bring a printed copy and a glass of water with you. It's okay to pause, breathe, or ask someone else to finish reading if needed.

Bonus: What If You Get Emotional While Reading?

It’s okay. In fact, it’s expected. A eulogy is one of the most emotional things you can share.

If your voice breaks or you need a moment. Pause. Breathe. No one will judge you for feeling. If you're too overwhelmed, it’s also perfectly fine to ask someone you trust to step in and finish reading for you.

Your emotion is part of the tribute. It’s a sign of love.

A Few Final Thoughts

Your words don’t have to be perfect. They just need to be true. A eulogy is a gift, not just to the person being remembered, but to everyone listening. It’s a way of saying: “Your life mattered. You won’t be forgotten.”

If you're looking for more support during this time, A Life Portrait offers an easy way to preserve photos, stories, and memories in one place. Whether you're gathering material for a eulogy or simply honoring a legacy, we’re here to help.


❤️ Learn about Memorial Portraits at alifeportrait.com/memorial-portrait


Podcast about Crafting a Meaningful Eulogy


Resources

If you’re looking for more guidance or support as you write a eulogy, here are some helpful resources from trusted sources:




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